Funeral & Memorial Services

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Contact information:

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200 High Meadow Drive, Cary, NC  27511

919.467.4944        e: churchoffice@kirkofkildaire.com

www.kirkofkildaire.org

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Funeral & Memorial Service Guidelines

At the Time of Death

Fountain in the Kirk Memorial Garden
Memorial Garden Fountain

The pastors and church staff want to minister to you in your time of bereavement. We encourage you to notify the church office, as soon as possible, of your loved one’s death or impending death.

A pastor will schedule an appointment with you and other family members to plan the memorial or funeral service.

The purpose of this guide is to support families in this time of grief by assisting in planning a service that recognizes the loss of a loved one and the celebration of their life. The service, in expressing the faith of the church, will be an occasion of dignity, reverence and remembrance. We carefully follow the guidelines for the Service of Witness to the Resurrection which is found in  the Directory of Worship, which is a part of the Constitution of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.).

Staff

Memorial services are normally conducted by one or more of the members of our clergy staff. Other church staff may include the organist, soloist(s), office administrator  and sexton. The officiating minister will plan the service with you, help with additional arrangements, and give you all necessary instructions.

Funeral Directors & Mortuaries

There are many fine funeral homes in the Raleigh and Cary area. Please contact one with which you are familiar. If you need assistance in making a selection, the clergy will be happy to help you make your decision.

Visitation & Viewing the Body

Some people are comforted by seeing the body, but this is a family decision. A visitation in the funeral home the evening before the funeral is often a helpful time for the family and friends. Ordinarily, the pastor will be with the family at the beginning of the visitation, before friends arrive. If the family wishes to hold a visitation at the church, that is often done after the service.  In terms of viewing the body on the day of the service, it can be requested that the casket be open for an hour preceding the service. The casket is closed 15 minutes before the worship service begins.

Cremation

Cremation is an option for Christians and is supported by the Session and the pastors of this church. In case of cremation, no casket is present, and the family may wish to have a picture of their loved one present on the day of the memorial service. It is recommended that ashes be scattered or placed in the Memorial Garden or Columbarium.  The service will be led by one of the pastors.

Columbarium & Memorial Garden Policy and Guidelines.

Burial

The pastor should be notified by the family and funeral home about the location of the cemetery.

The service will be led by one of the pastors.

Place & Plans for the Service

The service ordinarily should be held in the Sanctuary of the church. The Sanctuary seats approximately 600 persons, but its design works equally well for 100 or more.

It is also appropriate to hold the service in the chapel of the funeral home, or to plan an abbreviated service at the grave or Memorial Garden/Columbarium. The funeral or memorial service may be observed before or after the committal of the body.

The family should plan to arrive at the church no later than one-half hour before the service is scheduled to begin. Family members and those to be seated with the family are asked to go directly to the Session Room (by the church office) upon arrival. It is important that they remain there until the service is ready to begin.