Revised February 2016

Kirk of Kildaire Presbyterian Church

Stephen Ministry Library


  1. (The) Anger Trap Free yourself from the frustrations that sabotage your life; by Dr. Les Carter. 2003.
  2. (The) Art of Forgiving – When you need to forgive and don’t know how; by Lewis Smedes. 1996.
  3. Boundaries – When to say YES, when to say NO, to take control of your life; by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. 1992..
  4. Caring Enough to Confront – How to understand and express your deepest feelings toward others; by David Augsburger. 2009.
  5. Choosing Forgiveness – Your journey to freedom; by Nancy DeMoss. 2006.
  6. Crazy Time – Surviving divorce and building a new life; by Abigail Trafford. 1992.
  7. Crucial ConversationsTools for talking when stakes are high; by K. Patterson, J.Grenny, R. McMillan and A.Switzler. 2002
  8. Dignity: the Essential Role It Plays in Resolving Conflict; by Donna Hicks, Ph.D. Forwarded by Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu.2011.
  9. Everybody Wins – A guide to solving conflicts without arguing; by Gary Chapman. 2006.
  10. Generation to Generation – Religious aspects of family therapy; by Edwin Friedman. 1985.
  11. Getting Past No – Negotiating in difficult situations; by William Ury. 1991.
  12. Get on the Peace Train – A journey from anger to harmony – How successful people cope with anger, their own or that of others; by Lynn Johnson, Ph.D. 2004 – 2007.
  13. The Happy Stepmother: Stay Sane, Empower Yourself, Thrive in Your New Family; by Rachelle Katz, Ed.D. 2010.
  14. (The) Journey From Abandonment to HealingSurviving through – and recovering from – the five stages that accompany the loss of love; by Susan Anderson. 2000.
  15. (The) Journey Toward Reconciliation – Religious aspects of conflict management; by John Lederach. 1999.
  16. (The) Lies We Believe – The #1 cause of our unhappiness; by Chris Thurman. 1989.
  17. Let It Go – Forgive so you can be forgiven; by T.D. Jakes, 2012.
  18. Life After Divorce – Create a new beginning; by Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse. 1994.
  19. Mom’s House, Dad’s House – Making two homes for your child . A complete guide for parents who are separated, divorced, or remarried; by Isolina Ricci, PH.D. 1997.
  20. Oddly Normal – A Memoir. One family’s struggle to help their teenage son come to terms with his sexuality; by John Schwartz. 2012.
  21. The Power of Positive Confrontation: The Skills You Need to Handle Conflicts at Work, at Home, Online, and in Life; by Barbara Pachter with Susan Magee. 2014.
  22. (The) Price of Love – For victims and survivors of domestic violence; by T. Bagley. unknown.
  23. Relationship Rescue – A seven step strategy for reconnecting with your partner; by Phillip McGraw, Ph.D. 2000.
  24. (The) Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – A Practical guide from the country’s foremost relationship expert; by John Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver. 1999.
  25. (The) Smart Stepdad – Practical steps to help you succeed; By Ron Deal. 2011.
  26. (The) Smart Stepmom – Practical steps to help you thrive; by Ron Deal and Laura Petherbridge. 2009.
  27. Unraveling – Hanging on to faith through the end of a Christian Marriage; by Elizabeth Corcoran. 2013.
  28. When Parents Hurt – Compassionate strategies when you and your grown child don’t get along; by Joshua Coleman. Ph.D. 2007.
  29. When the Vow Breaks – A survival and recovery guide for Christians facing divorce; by Joseph Kniskern; 1993.
  30. Why Mars & Venus Collide – Improving relationships by understanding how men and women cope differently with stress; by John Gray, Ph.D. 2008.

Personal Growth, Inspiration

  1. Adaptability – How to survive change you didn’t ask for; by M.J. Ryan. 2009.
  2. After the Boxes are Unpacked – Moving on after moving in; by Susan Miller. 1995.
  3. (A) Bend in the Road Is Not the End of the Road – 10 positive principles for dealing with change; by Joan and Lunden Andrea Cagan. 1998.
  4. (The) Book of Forgiving – the fourfold path for healing ourselves and our world: by Desmond Tutu and 2014.
  5. Choosing Forgiveness – Your journey to freedom. Using God’s Word to uncover the promises and expose the myths of forgiveness; by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. 2006.
  6. Disappointment With God – Three questions no one asks aloud: Is God unfair? Is He silent? Is he hidden? By Philip . 1988.
  7. Enough – Discovering joy through simplicity and generosity; by Adam Hamilton. 2009. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  8. Healing from Divorce – 28 days of prayer; by Mary Lou Redding. 2013.
  9. Healing Words for the Body, Mind and Spirit – 101 words to inspire and affirm. 2009.
  10. Here If You Need Me – A memoir of a woman who lived through tragedy to grace; by Kate Braestrup. 2007.
  11. Lessons for Life’s Little Detours– essays on important life lessons: by Regina Brett. 2010.
  12. Life After Loss – A personal guide dealing with death, divorce, job change and relocation; by Bob Deits. 2000.
  13. Life Messages – Inspiration for the woman’s spirit. Memories and reflections from women of all walks of life who have risen above their difficulties; by Josephine Carlton. 2002.
  14. Listen – Finding God in the story of your life; by Keri Kent. 2006.
  15. (The) Little Book of Letting Go – A revolutionary 30 day program to cleanse your mind, lift your spirit and replenish your soul; by Hugh Prather. 2000.
  16. Living with Confidence in a Chaotic World – Delves into God’s inspired Word for answers that reveal hope in our uncertain times; by David Jeremiah. 2009.
  17. (The) Lord Is My Shepherd – Healing wisdom of the twenty-third Psalm; by Harold Kushner. 2003.
  18. (A) Man’s Feelings – Finding closure after divorce. A real life story of one’s personal struggle and subsequent redemption from the tragedy of divorce. By Michael. 2008.
  19. Nothing Is Impossible – Autobiography. Reflections on a new life; by Christopher Reeves. 2002.
  20. Please Stop Laughing at Me – One woman’s inspirational story of her son’s school bullying; by Jodee Blanco. 2003.
  21. (The) Promise of Hope – Coping when life caves in; by William Kinnaird. 1993.
  22. Resilience – Reflections on the burdens and gifts of facing life’s adversities; by Elizabeth Edwards. 2009.
  23. Running On Empty – Contemplative spirituality for overachievers; by Fil Anderson. 2004.
  24. Showers of Blessings – Poems of the goodness and wisdom of God; by Helen Steiner Rice. 1988.
  25. Small Miracles – Extraordinary coincidences from everyday life; by Yitta Halberstam and Judith Leventhal. 1997.
  26. Speaking the Truth in Love – How to be an assertive Christian; by Ruth Koch and Kenneth Haugk. 1992.
  27. What About the Big Stuff? – Advice in learning to deal with some of the larger issues in life; by Richard Carlson, Ph.D. 2002.
  28. These are the Gifts I’d Like to Give You – A sourcebook of joy and encouragement; edited by Douglas Pagels 2000.
  29. Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life – A journey through religion that helps us to rescue what remains wise; by Karen Armstrong. 2011.
  30. When Bad Things Happen to Good People – Theodicy, suffering, pastoral counseling; by Harold Kushner. 1981.
  31. Where Is God When It Hurts – A comforting, healing guide for coping with hard times; by Philip Yancey. 1990.
  32. Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am – Insights into personal growth; by John Powell. 1999.


  1. (The) Anatomy of Hope – How people prevail in the face of illness; by Jerome Groopman. 2004.
  2. (The) Anxiety Cure – A proven method for dealing with worry, stress, and panic attacks; by Dr. Archibald Hart. 1999.
  3. Everything Parent’s Guide to Children with Depression – An authoritative handbook on identifying symptoms, choosing treatments, and raising a happy and healthy child; by Rebecca Rutledge, Ph.D. 2007.
  4. Food Addiction – Healing day by day. Daily resources to help recover from food addiction; by Kay Sheppard. 2003.
  5. How to Help Children Through a Parents’ Serious Illness – Supportive , practical advice from a leading child life specialist; by Kathleen McCue, M.A. 1994
  6. Keys to Living With a Hearing Loss Description, advice, and coping skills for living with a hearing loss; by Marcia Dugan. 1997.
  7. Life in the Balance: A Physician’s Memoir of Life, Love, and Loss with Parkinson’s Disease and Dementia; by Thomas Graboys, M.D. 2008.
  8. Mayo Clinic on Alzheimer’s Disease – Practical answers on memory loss, aging, research, treatment and caregiving; editor in chief, Ronald Peterson, M.D. 2002.
  9. (The) Monster in the Cave – How to face your fear and anxiety and live your life; by Dave Mellinger and Steven Lynn. 2003.
  10. Morning Has Broken – A couple’s journey through depression; by Emme and Phillip Aronson. 2006.
  11. Shelter from the Storm – Caring for a child with a life-threatening condition; by Joanne Hilden and Daniel Tobin. 2003.
  12. There But for the Grace of God – Surviving cancer with adult stem cell transplants; by Carol Franz. 2009.
  13. There’s Always Help; There’s Always Hope – An award-winning psychiatrist shows you how to heal your body, mind, and spirit; by Eve Wood, MD. 2004.
  14. Unexpected Blessings – Finding hope and healing in the face of illness; by Roxanne Black. 2008.
  15. Victory Through Breast Cancer – Memoir with scripture passages of surviving breast cancer. 1999.
  16. What Do I Do When Teenagers Are Depressed and Contemplate Suicide? – Helping teens break through the darkness of depression and suicide; by Dr. Steven Gerali. 2009.
  17. When and How to Use Mental Health Resources – A guide for Stephen Ministers, Stephen leaders, and church staff; by Kenneth Haugk. 2000.
  18. When a Parent Has Cancer – A guide to caring for your children when you have cancer; by Wendy Harpham. 1997.
  19. You Can Beat Depression – A guide to prevention and recovery; by Dr. John Preston. 2001.
  20. Your Pain Is Changing You: Discover the Power of a Godly Response; by David Crosby. 2014.

Dying, Death, Grief

  1. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End; A deeply affecting and important book about the medical profession’s mishandling of aging and death. #1 New York Times bestseller. by Atul Gawande. 2014.
  2. (A) Child’s View of Grief – A guide for caring adults; by Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D. 1990. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  3. Coping with Life After Your Mate Dies – Dealing with death of a spouse; by Donald /Cushenbery and Rita Cushenbery. 1997.
  4. Death and Dying, Life and Living – Coping with death, dying, bereavement, and new challenges and opportunities; by Charles Corr, Clyde Nabe and Donna Corr. 1994.
  5. Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death – surviving the first hours and beyond; by Sherokee Ilse. 2010.
  6. (A) Faithful Farewell: Living Your Last Chapter With Love – encouragement to those living life at its closure and living it with openness, faithfulness and hope: by Marilyn McEntyre. 2015.
  7. Getting to the Other Side of Grief – Overcoming the loss of a spouse; by Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge, and Robert DeVries. 1998.
  8. (The) Gift of Compassion: A Guide to Helping Those Who Grieve; by Becca Stevens. 2012. This book is located in the SMALL BOOKS basket.
  9. Gone But Not Lost: Grieving the Death of a Child; by David Wiesbe. 1992.
  10. Good Grief – A constructive approach to the problem of loss; by Granger Westberg. 1997. 2 copies. This book is located in the SMALL BOOKS basket.
  11. Good to Go: A Guide to Preparing For the End of Life; by Jo Myers. 2010.
  12. (A) Grief Observed – The Author’s experience of death of his wife; by C.S. Lewis.1961.
  13. Grieving the death of a Mother – Combines wise counsel and spiritual connection through the issues that surround the death of a mother; by Harold Smith. 2003.
  14. Helping Children Cope with Grief – A teacher’s guide; by Ronald Sunderland, Ed. D. 1995
  15. How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies – Grieving the loss of a loved one; by Therese Rando. 1988. 2 copies.
  16. I know Just How You Feel – Avoiding the clichés of grief; by Erin Linn. 1986.
  17. I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodby: Surviving, Coping and Healing After a Sudden Death of a Loved One; by Brook Noel and Pamela Blair, Ph.D 2008.
  18. Lessons on Loss and Living – Hope and guidance for confronting serious illness and grief; by Michele Reiss, Ph.D. 2010.
  19. Letters to Myself on Dying – A journal of hope, pain, and courage; by Mirth Vos. 1999
  20. Letting Go By Holding Tight – Essays generated by the loss of the author’s daughter; by Melinda Kramer. 2007. (3 copies) This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  21. Life After Loss – A practical guide to renewing your life after experiencing major loss; by Bob Deits
  22. Losing a Parent – A guide to facing death and dying; by Alexandra Kennedy. 1991.
  23. My Beautiful Broken Shell – An illustrated book with words of hope to refresh the soul after a loss; by Carol Adams. 1998.
  24. 90 (Ninety) Minutes in Heaven – A true story of death and life; by Don Piper with Cecil Murphey. 2004.
  25. Not the last Goodbye – On life, death, healing and cancer; by David Servan-Schreiber. 2011.
  26. On Children and Death – A parent book about death; by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. 1983
  27. On Grieving the Death of a Father – Religious aspect of death of a father; by Harold Smith. 1994.
  28. (The) Orphaned Adult – Understanding and coping with grief and change after the death of our parents; by Alexander Levy. 1999.
  29. Parting: A Handbook for Spiritual Care Near the End of Life; by Jennifer Holder and Jann Aldredge-Clanton. 2004.
  30. (A) Time to Mourn, A Time to Dance – Help for the losses in life; by Margaret Metzgar. 2000.
  31. Ready to Live, Prepared to Die – A provocative guide to the rest of your life; by Amy Harwell. 1995.
  32. Surviving the Loss of a Child – Support for grieving parents; by Elizabeth Brown. 2010. 2 copies.
  33. Transcending Loss – Understanding the lifelong impact of grief and how to make it meaningful; by Ashley Prend. 1997.
  34. What About the Children? – A parent book about coping with death; by Rose Helms and Doris Blazer. 1986. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  35. (The) Worst Loss – How families heal from the death of a child; by Barbara Rosof. 1994.


  1. Alzheimer’s Early Stages – A guide for family members and friends; by Daniel Kuhn, MSW. 1999.
  2. (The) Art of Helping – What to say and do when someone is hurting; by Lauren Briggs. 2003.
  3. Caregiver Therapy An illustrated guide to deepen and enrich the caregiver’s experience. An Elf-Help book, Abby Press: by Julie Kuebelbeck Victoria O’Connor. Illustrated by R. W. Alley. 1995. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  4. Caring For Your Parents – The complete AARP Guide; by Hugh Delehanty and Elinor Ginzler. 2005.
  5. Christ Will See You Through – For friends in hospitals, nursing centers, and for those going through troubled times; by Richard Crombie, D.D., Ph.D. 1999.
  6. Christian Caregiving – A way of life; by Kenneth Haugk. 1984.
  7. Comforting Friends in Crisis – Guide to knowing what to say, what not to say, and what you can do; by contributors of Group Publishing, Inc. 2009.
  8. Don’t Sing Songs to a Heavy Heart – How to relate to those who are suffering; by Kenneth Haugk, Ph.D. 2009.
  9. How To Be a People Helper – Helping others; by Dr. Cary Collins. 1976.
  10. If There’s Anything I Can Do -What you can do when serious Illness strikes; by Josephine Hicks. 2011.
  11. Lessons in Care-Giving for the Dying – More than a parting prayer; by William Griffith. 2004.
  12. (The) Other Side of Alzheimer’s – A collection of personal experiences by a Raleigh woman who cared for her husband who had Alzheimer’s; by Martha-Lee Ellis. 2012.
  13. Spiritual Care – A guide for caregivers; by Judith Shelly. 2000. 3 copies.
  14. (The) 26-Hour Day – A family guide to caring for persons with Alzheimer disease, related dementing illnesses, and memory loss in later life; by Nancy Mace, M.A. and Peter Rabins, MD. 199l.
  15. Walking on Eggshells – Caring for a critically ill loved one; by Amy Sales. 2012
  16. When Friends Ask for Help – Biblical advice on counseling friends in need; by Harold Sala, Ph.D. 2000.
  17. When Someone Asks For Help A practical guide for counseling; by Everett Worthington, Jr. 1982.

Devotions, Prayer

  1. All Will Be Well – A collection of healing prayers; edited by Lyn Klug. 1998.
  2. Answering the Call – Inspirational devotions from a tested paramedic; by Pat Patterson. 2010.
  3. (A) Beautiful Life – Devotions for a woman’s heart; by Gwen Faulkenberry. 2008.
  4. (The) Best Gift Is Love – Meditations by Mother Teresa; compiled and edited by Sean-Patrick Lovett. 1982.
  5. Fire in the Soul – A prayer book for the later years; by Richard Lyon Morgan. 2000
  6. (A) Forgiving Heart – Prayers for blessing and reconciliation; edited by Lyn Klug. 2003.
  7. (The) Harper Collins Book of Prayers – A treasury of prayer through the ages; compiled by Robert Van de Weyer. 1993
  8. May I Have This Dance? –Devotions for each month; by Joyce Rupp. 1992
  9. Meditations for the Passages and Celebrations of Life – A book of vigils; by Noela Evans. 1994.
  10. Miracles Are Heaven Sent – A timeless collection of stories, quotes, hymns, scriptures and poems revealing the mysteries of God’s supernatural power; 1995.
  11. 100 (One Hundred) Verses Every Mom Needs to Know – Bible verses on various topics for moms to memorize; publisher, Freeman-Smith. 2009.
  12. Out of the Ordinary – Prayers, poems, and reflections for every season; by Joyce Rupp. 1993.
  13. (The) Power of a Praying Parent – Book of prayers for parents; by Stormie Omartian. 1982. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  14. Prayer – Finding the heart’s true home; by Richard Foster. 1992.
  15. Take Five – Devotions to strengthen a man’s relationships; Robert Busha ed. 1994.

Growing Older 

  1. God Never Forgets: Faith, Hope, and Alzheimer’s disease; by Donald McKim, editor. 1997.
  2. Growing Older and Wiser – 9 Christian studies for individuals or groups; by Dale and Sandy Larsen. 2003. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  3. Help, Lord! I’m Having a Senior Moment – Notes to God on growing older; by Karen O’Connor. 2003.
  4. Living with Purpose in a Worn Out Body – Spiritual encouragement for older adults; by Missy Buchanan. 2008.
  5. (The) Merck Manual of Health and Aging – A comprehensive guide to the changes and challenges of aging; by Mark Beers, MD., editor-in-chief. 2004.
  6. No Wrinkles On The Soul – A book of readings for older adults; by Richard Morgan. 1990.
  7. Remembering Your Story – Creating your own spiritual autobiography; by Richard Morgan. 2002.
  8. Settling In – My first year in a retirement community; by Richard Morgan. 2006.
  9. Ten Rules for Growing Older with Dignity A Christian perspective of aging; by Richard Cox, MD, PhD, DMin. 2012.
  10. (The) Parent Care Conversation – 6 strategies for dealing with the emotional and financial challenges of aging parents; by Dan Taylor. 2006
  11. Successful Aging – A collection of the wit and wisdom of people who have aged successfully; by Mary O’Brien, M.D. 2005.
  12. They’re Your Parents, Too! – How siblings can survive their parents’ aging without driving each other crazy; by Francine Russo, Ph.D. 2010.
  13. When It’s Your Turn – Grown children caring for aging parents: a guide to finances, health, and housing; by Susan Shelly. 2002.

Children’s Books

  1. All Things Bright and Beautiful – A Collection of Prayer and Verse; illustrated by Helen Lanzrein. 2006.
  2. Am I Still a Sister? – A child’s book about death; by Alicia Sims. 1986.
  3. Children Are Not Paper Dolls – A visit with bereaved siblings; by Erin Linn. 1982.
  4. (A) Gathering of Angels – A children’s book of prayers; edited by Peter Eyvindson. 2003.
  5. God Gave Us Two – Polar bear cub expecting a sibling; by Lisa Bergren. 2001.
  6. God Gave Us You – Polar bear cub learns how much babies are wanted; by Lisa Bergren. 2000.
  7. Guess What! We’re Moving – A children’s book about coping with family relocation; by Christine Tangvald. 1988.
  8. Jenny – Coming to terms with the death of a sibling; by Stephanie Jeffs and Jacqui Thomas. 2006.
  9. Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore – A children’s book about divorce; by Christine Tangvald. 1988.
  10. Please Come Home – A child’s book about divorce; by Doris Sanford. 1985.
  11. Someone I Love Died – A child’s book about death; by Christine Tangvald 1988
  12. It Must Hurt a Lot – A child’s book about death; by Doris Sanford. 1986.
  13. Tell Me Papa – A family book for children’s questions about death and funerals; by Joy and Marv Johnson. 1978.
  14. Timothy Duck – The story of the death of a friend; by Lynn Blackburn. 1987.
  15. We Have a New Baby! – A children’s book about a new baby in the family; by Christine Tangvald. 1988.
  16. What Happened When Grandma Died – Life and death are presented in terms a child can understand easily; by Peggy Barker. 1984.
  17. Where’s Jess – A child’s book about death; by Joy and Marv Johnson. 1982.